Google 'grilling is sexist' and you will find a slew of articles, such as this:
No, what really drains the joy from the summer breeze is the assumption, and the practice, that this is Man's Work. All over the UK, probably the world, the barbecue is now one of the last places where even normal blokes become sexist. What we have here is some kind of psychic counterpart to the Paleo diet, a biologically deterministic blizzard of bullshit that sees women as salad-spinners and men as the keepers of the grill, the tenders of the flame, lords and masters of thereat. It's a sausage-fest out there, and it's getting ugly.
No, wrong. Sausage good!!!
Okay, okay, I didn't GRILL them outside on a GRILL. But I did cook these uncured, sugar-free kielbasa inside, does that count? Personally, the only thing that drains the joy from the summer breeze around here is, well, when there is no breeze, and it's just plain HOT!
(NOTE: I DID NOT SPIN A SALAD. THERE IS NO SALAD. NONE. ZIPPO.)
Here is another:
I hate how much I love to grill. It's not that I'm inclined to vegetarianism or that I otherwise object to the practice itself. But I'm uncomfortable with the pleasure I take in something so conventionally masculine. Looming over the coals, tongs in hand, I feel estranged from myself, recast in the role of suburban dad. At such moments, I get the sense that I've fallen into a societal trap, one that reaffirms gender roles I've spent years trying to undo. The whole business feels retrograde, a relic of some earlier less inclusive era.
Did you catch those triggers? "Fallen into a societal trap" and "reaffirms gender roles" "...retrograde, a relic...less inclusive era."
These days, there are those that are trying to polarize everything. Turn one group onto another.
Women against men. Young against old. Traditional practices versus anything goes. A blurring of the differences among the sexes, a belief that it is toxic to be masculine, or the many other labels being slung around these days by the alleged masters of tolerance.
Don't let them do it!
There are those who seek to 'domesticate' and 'enslave' us all. Refuse to be domesticated!
There are those who have a monopoly on journalism and media of all varieties. They are craftily carving out narratives that they want the naive and unsuspecting masses to believe, and take in as gospel. They are shaping our cultural beliefs and ideologies.
Be aware. Question everything!
If you are a man, and you like to grill, excellent. Enjoy!
|T-Bones & Applegate Farms Uncured Grass-Fed Beef Hotdogs|
|Ribeye Steaks...so good!|
If you are a woman, and you like to grill, excellent! Enjoy as well!
Natural Biological Differences Between Men and Women
There are natural traits and genetic and biological predispositions to the feminine and masculine opposite but complementary expressions. Each person has varying degrees of these traits, however, much is dictated by hormones, diet, chemicals and drugs, and the diet and chemicals consumed by our mothers. Some is also shaped by environment, heavily influenced by cultural 'norms' expressed in the media and the schools ~ also essentially owned by a relatively small few. (You may also like to read my article, Why I Don't Hate Men, and Disagree With Feminism ~ Yin Yang Principles of Balance)
There is a beautiful, complementary expression of both the yin, feminine, and yang masculine forces in varying degrees that defines all natural phenomena. Lets begin to honor this, rather than fight against it. To fight against it is to fight against Nature. To fight against Nature is to fight against, or disregard the very feminine expression that many claim to be trying to uphold.
While there are ways that women tend to operate that can confuse or confound the shit out of men, and there are ways that men may act that frustrate the heck out of women, I believe the answer comes from learning to better understand that we are each wired a bit differently. We don't have to fully understand or like anything. Neither do we need to keep dismissing (or favoring) one over the other, which is the definition of chauvinism.
One is not better than the other. Both have an evolutionary and biologic function, designed when fully expressed and realized to the fullest potential to help us individually and within our families and extended communities to best thrive.
There is a positive and negative expression to everything. When operating from a place of balance, we are exalted. When operating from a place of imbalance, we suffer the consequences. We experience symptoms that are themselves designed to hopefully get our attention, and do what is needed to restore balance. Perhaps the 'negative' or challenging symptoms we are experiencing are meant to be uncomfortable, precisely to help us look within, and make some changes. Take a leap of faith towards expressing our True Nature, rather than hold back out of fears, or unrelenting self doubts, insecurities, and faulty wiring.
Both men and women have the equal potential for the positive or negative expression of these various traits.
The imbalanced expression of being nurturing and receptive is pathological altruism. Caring when it is detrimental, and giving all the time without also being able to ask for and receive help.
The imbalanced expression of being logical, or strong and protective is authoritarianism and aggression, bullying and abuse.
Women and men equally can express the greatness of who they are, or succumb to their darker, shadow aspects. Both men and women can be caring and protective, and/or aggressive and abusive.
Continually pointing out in a whining and complaining tone that 'all' of an entire group are X, Y, Z, and that the very natural expression of who they are needs to change or be suppressed is absolutely inappropriate. It just pits one sex against the other. It is also a blatant disregard for one's own actions. It's a refusal to look within, and be accountable to one's own actions, or one's own unhealed wounds.
I am not condoning bad behaviors. No matter whom is the perpetrator. I'm not discounting themes and patterns of the past, or past injustices. I'm merely stating that I for one am tired of the complaining that is pitting the sexes against each other.
If we are to move forward, improve relations, and create an atmosphere that is more conducive to all thriving, then we must begin with ourselves. We must look within at our own shadow aspects. We must begin to accept that we have hormones that dictate certain features, and that we have these roles for a reason. Because they make sense. They have worked for the entirety of life on Earth. Animals are not quibbling over who brings home lunch, and who tends to the young cubs.
So grill away...man/woman.
How about we all quit turning every single once enjoyable activity or even daily necessity (like just eating food) into such divisive battles?
Don't let the joy drain from the summer breeze!